Did you know that the presenting problem is not the real problem? So many times clients tell me that they have an issue with depression, drugs, smoking, anxiety, and so much more. The truth is that this is a conscious effect from an unconscious cause. This is because most people live in memory.
If we live in memory, we create an abnormal effect causing us to choose unhealthy behaviors such as drinking, wallowing and obsessing. We are no longer creating a future that is beneficial since we are living in a memory and a memory can only happen after an event is over. Even a happy memory can cause someone to be trapped in sadness.
Think of someone who has gone through a breakup. If one person replays the happy memories, do they become happy? More often than not, they become more depressed from those happy memories. Then there are people who use memories to predict the future, and live with anxiety. They believe bad things may happen in their future so they are scared. They believe that because it happened in the past, it will happen in the future.
How do we get out of living in memory?
It’s a simple solution: regress, inform, forgive, and transform (RIFT). We need to put a RIFT between the conscious effect and the unconscious cause. I created this program to help all practitioners—self-healers included—no longer feel stuck regarding what they should heal or how to do it.
When we Regress the client or ourselves, it is a simple way to talk to the inner child, the place where this belief first started. There are only a few things you need to know. First, you need to know the age of the inner child. This helps you tell the difference between the client in your office and the inner child you are talking to. For example, Bob might be the one who came to your office, but six-year-old Bob is the inner child, so you can now adapt your communications. The last two things you need to know is who else was there if trauma was instilled and what happened.
Once you have the information, you can move onto Inform. This is where you begin to release the emotion at the inner-child level. This is when you talk to the youngster within and explain to them what is going on. Since you know how old that inner child is, it is important to use words and language they will understand. You can even use the adult Bob to communicate with the young Bob. He can use words that he knows will be understood. Have them find a safe place, mentally, and a time before and after the event that you can bring them to. This helps eliminate negative emotions from the memory. Once the child has been informed of what is going to happen and you have had them experience the memory at least four times, and they no longer seem as emotionally connected by the event, you can move onto the next step.
Now it is time to Forgive. You need to make sure that they understand that this is not just a word. It is an emotion that will set them free from the event. It is also important to have them understand that they do not have to like, condone, or even talk to the person they are forgiving. This is for themselves, to release any remaining emotions—such as anger, hate and fear—that could hold them back. After they forgive each person from the memory, let them forgive anyone else that may have hurt them in any way. Once that is done, give them time to forgive themselves.
Now that the client is no longer living in memory, there is one more thing we need to do. We need to Transform the client into who they want to be. This allows them to live in the present, inspired as to how they handle future situations. It is important that you fill them with love, acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude. When you do this, it gives them the tools they need to make sure they can handle the time out of your office in a different way. A perfect way to do this is to allow them to experience a different future before they leave your office. Give them a crystal ball or have them watch themselves on a TV in their mind doing things differently. Make sure everything feels perfect and right for them. If it doesn’t, allow them to change their visioning before they leave.
The time is takes for people to get through each RIFT step will vary. For some, it happens quickly. For others it may take multiple sessions. It is important to not rush this and make sure the client feels the emotions during each step.