Life presents challenges, obstacles, tests and what we generally refer to as “problems.” I’ve found that the more you suppress your soul’s purpose, or the subtle pulls and tugs urging you to live and explore, the more frequently problems tend to arise, but even when being your true self you’re still not impervious. They’re always there and maybe they aren’t problems at all, but circumstances to facilitate your growth, faith and strength. Perhaps we must all rethink our stance on problems vs. solutions.
Do you consider having to push yourself harder to achieve your goal as a problem? Is metaphorically banging on and trying to pry your way into a seemingly closed door a problem? Are series of minor “failures” in your opinion problems? Could they be obstacles put there to strengthen you mentally and emotionally, so that when you reach your goals, you are prepared to handle the issues and situations that will naturally occur? Maybe the “door” through which you are relentlessly trying to pass, is closed to test how badly you want to get in, or is simply not the right path for you at this time. It is possible that it just might not be in alignment with your soul’s mission, or for your highest and best good. Maybe those series of failures are to instill a harder motivational drive, or to create a more tenacious you. Perhaps those failures were actually saving you, steering you towards an opportunity more aligned with your true passion, and increasing your resilience.
All problems can be looked at as lessons, if you can recognize and learn from them, and all problems are solutions; however, they’re not always solutions to our problems. We all know of certain scenarios that test our faith more than others and that one of them is the sick child dilemma (SCD). When people ask how the universe could let terrible things like fatal child disease occur, we blame God, audaciously assuming that our moral compass, although not divine, must be correct. If not, then there was no mistake and everything does indeed happen for a reason—just not our reason. This, unfortunately, isn’t as hopeful or helpful as it at first sounds. One woman’s problems might be another woman’s solutions but how does that help the lady with the problems? Sometimes karma points don’t suffice.
When you accept that your problems are solutions and track down how and whom they are helping, you’re empowered thereafter to mindfully renovate your relationships with your beneficiaries. It’s highly likely that you’ll want to make some changes and might even want to cut ties with some individuals, ancestors and/or past lives altogether. Doing so will allow you to recover those parts of your self that have until now been acting as crutches to others. Your problems, those which are serving others or ugly parts of your self, will then become your solutions, changes that serve your health and better self.
Back to the SCD, if an unwell kid doesn’t make it then he or she is no longer consciously present, making it impossible for him or her to experience anymore suffering. In other words, the late child has become literally carefree, which is why we say “rest in peace.” Another relevant saying is “not my problem” because the burden does indeed lie with those who survive the late youngster. Knowing that the problem now rests with loved ones, we ask how their problems are acting as solutions to the problems of others or the wrong parts of their selves.
As we mentioned before, the problem in discussion is like all problems a solution to the universe’s “problem”—the need to take the child away. Surely, the problem doesn’t help any non-ethereal entities. Actually, if the survivors started volunteering for a charity that helps families experiencing SCDs, their loss would become a solution of sorts, a way to help others which would probably make them feel a bit better too. That’s only if they’re motivated to render an incomprehensible blow into something somewhat meaningfully positive. And there you have it.
Everyone with problems, even those going through an SCD, have the ability and the right to turn a shitty situation into a bittersweet win, howsoever they’re able to do it. It’s far from easy and most of us suck at it but the reason that time heals all is that we almost always get there eventually. Until you do, you’ll endure pain as if you must, and maybe you do. It is certainly a solution to a certain part of your self, just not to that part that knows you need to let go in order to thrive. The choice is yours. Most of your problems are not your solutions but they all can be if you let them. Unless and until you put in the requisite work your problems remain problems, affecting you and also those around you.
Every problem has a solution. You may have to analyze and brainstorm, but had the obstacle not arisen, you wouldn’t be able to look back on how you overcame it, nor have the satisfaction of knowing that you are fully capable of pushing through any putative problem life throws at you. You are loved, supported and guided. You are capable of coming out victoriously from anything and growing. Perhaps that is the point. When you surrender your need to control, things usually work out for the best.
Here’s an affirmation to help you pull through:
I will remain focused on my goals. Even if I have a moment of difficulty, I will not give up. I know success comes with consistency. I know that I will make it. Things will get better. No problem or challenge will stop me. Everything I deserve is coming my way.