I’m going to provide you with the secret code to shed unwanted habits and shine as a butterfly.
Did you know a lot of your undesired feelings and unwanted habits stem from the ways you have attempted to “cope” with life’s pressures?
But no one is born with a bad habit, an addiction, a phobia or an unnecessary worry. Only two fears are present in small babies: fear of loud noises and falling. You accumulate the rest from your surroundings and society. The situation you grow up in shapes your deepest beliefs and core emotions, leading to the habits and behaviors that you develop in life.
Smoking, alcoholism, drug addictions, binge eating, gambling—these and other unhealthy lifestyle habits are forms of distraction from the unmet needs that you are subconsciously feeling. But are these behaviors in fact more harmful than helpful?
It is important to bear in mind that while a momentary coping mechanism reduces the intensity of your emotions, it doesn’t address the core issues underneath. For example, stress brings anxiety and then the urge to act (drink, smoke, shop, steal, sex, etc.).
Maybe you’ve tried countless times, maybe you’ve attempted numerous diets and lifestyle changes, but over time slip back into the old habit or fears, taking you right back to where you started. You usually feel less worth, less hope, because you again have “failed” to do what you really intended to do for yourself.
And you’re more fearful that you cannot make a difference in life. That’s because your attempts are not dealing with the core issue.
You have to face up to how you really feel, and move past any self-limiting thoughts in your belief system that are stopping you from being who you really want to be. The fact is, it is your choice whether you want to give yourself that chance, to stay stuck in this cycle, or to get out of it via change.
Ask yourself why are you standing in your own way.
The unwanted habits or feelings, they are not part of who you are, just behaviors that you have adopted as a way of coping. You know today that, they no longer serve you, and you don’t want them in your life.
Take a seat and ask yourself;
- What do I really want?
- What is missing inside of me?
- What can really bring me what I want?
- What can I do to make a difference?
- What is one thing that I really need to achieve in order to feel great?
- What does that mean to my life?
- What will I do with that achievement?
By asking yourself these questions, you can become more connected with your feelings, in order to understand what in your subconscious mind is standing in your way.
Access the feelings you have suppressed, without reacting to them with the use of self-sabotaging thoughts or behaviors.
Then ask yourself how it feels to know that you could be in control of your life, that you could acknowledge the fears within you head-on, and not let them define how you conduct your life going forward? Isn’t that empowering you to rediscover the feelings that you want, which you actually used to have?
You can move forward towards your goals knowing that you are in charge of your feelings, not the other way around. Feeling control over an urge is incredibly encouraging, because you know you’ve gone through the worst and don’t want to return to that vicious cycle again. Learn how to listen to your emotions and what they are trying to tell you to do.
You are 100% in charge, in control and accountable. Changes can only happen with preparedness, commitment, consistency, readiness, and perseverance.
You are not represented by your behaviors or bad habits; still, every day you resist the desire to re-new your life, is a day you are not your best self.
So how does one become a butterfly?
“You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up on being a caterpillar.” (Trina Paulus)