Dr. Ken Best graduated magna cum laude from the Cleveland Chiropractic College and has since become an influencer whose practice is favored by Los Angeles celebrities. His latest book provides a guide to discovering and changing the limiting beliefs that block you from creating the life you want.
Benjamin Eisenstein (BE): In your book, Eleven Ways to Face Life’s Challenges, you talk about the Law of Attraction and quantum physics, aspects of each that need to be addressed in order to fully experience the abundance and change that we desire.
There are physicists who claim that if you think you understand quantum physics, then you don’t understand quantum physics. Please give us an example of how to apply this way of thinking to our daily lives.
Ken Best (KB): The way I worked with changing belief systems was difficult to explain to patients in scientific terms, until I watched the movie What the Bleep Do We Know? which illustrated the influence of quantum physics. Understanding that we are constantly affecting and evolving at submolecular levels—by intention, observation and witnessing—is essential to shifting what we believe to be firmly wired behaviors and belief systems. I refer to these as Energy Programs, which encompasses both the neurological component and the illusive energies that play upon our beliefs, either keeping us firmly entrenched in the same old repetitive thoughts and behaviors or allowing Moments of Realization™ that take us out of our limiting repetitive thoughts.
Changing our reality in any given moment is possible because it’s our actions and reactions to the moment that we choose. Unfortunately if we are entrenched in the Rabbit Hole we rarely see that we have any other choices. Getting Out of the Rabbit Hole is a technique in the book that quickly brings you back into the moment by following a few simple steps and allows you to see more choices and to take action.
Action is always key to getting and staying on the path you choose. Without action the Law of Attraction is for practical purposes meaningless. You must have consistent intention, beliefs and action to manifest what you want. In the beginning this may feel like it takes a lot of effort—like learning to ride a bike. When it becomes second nature staying out of the Rabbit Hole becomes an easy choice. Being alive and more present to the moment allows for more happiness.
BE: You developed a neat process you call Rewriting Your Life™ which acts as a guide to change the direction of one’s thoughts, creating a long-lasting positive mental attitude. What is the first step in adopting this thought process, and will it work for everyone?
KB: I’d love to say this would work for everyone–as it would in theory. I will say that some of the negative painful experiences are valuable life lessons.
Sometimes to pull someone out of this negative space is to rob them of something they may need to learn. This may sound a bit like karma, and in a sense it is. If I hadn’t broken my spine, I wouldn’t have understood pain the way I do. If I hadn’t had cancer, I wouldn’t have understood what people have to deal with facing the medical community.
This technique is really best for people who are ready for change in their life and want to embrace that but don’t know where to start. These tools in Rewriting Your Life can help you finding a starting place and as you work more with these techniques, you then realize your life is always evolving and expanding. This technique then becomes your companion to navigate the new terrain and challenges that come along in life.
The first step, and this is harder than it sounds, is to become more self-aware. Self-awareness then allows you to undercover a multitude of inhibitory belief systems and unhelpful patterns as they show up in your life. Once you are aware of them then you can change them.
BE: What would you say to a someone who can’t stop living in the past, can’t shake insecurities from lifestyle choices they are now embarrassed of, that prevent them from seeking new opportunities?
KB: Admittedly that is a tough question. First, the statement “I can’t stop living in the past” is it’s own self-fulfilling prophecy. It is also an indicator that the person is hooked in a pattern of being a victim, often times with the belief that they are also responsible for it. The one way they are responsible is to be ‘responsive in the moment’—we can’t negate the past but we can choose not to let it continue defining who we are. We can say “it is what it is” or “it is what it was, but now I choose to act from who I am now in this moment.”
Second, we need to remind ourselves that most everyone makes some mistakes or choices they are not proud of. We have to forgive ourselves, try to right wrongdoings if possible, make peace with it, and then have compassion for ourselves for just being beautifully imperfect human beings.
Along this line of regret, carrying around shame is the lowest vibration emotion and will ultimately take a toll on you emotionally and physically. I see this frequently with people who have difficulty healing because they haven’t let go of this.
BE: Even belief systems “hardwired” in the brain can change. Unfortunately, this change takes time, and most people want results overnight. Explain to us what plasticity is, and how your methods can change it. What are the overall, long-term benefits of working on change at that level?
KB: I think I mostly refer to plasticity in the brain in situations where I have patients with post-concussion syndrome. I can use lasers or magnets and a technique called “Injury Recall” (IRT) to break the pattern of the post-concussion symptoms, but because the brain is involved, it can also find other new pathways to retrace and recreate symptoms. So for example, with a shoulder injury using IRT, it may only need to be done once, but in post- concussion it may clear for a week or a month and then have to be cleared again. It may take several months to clear the symptoms depending on the neural pathways.
When I refer to something being hardwired in the brain, I am talking more about patterns than beliefs symptoms. This is seen in what I consider a trigger, an emotionally induced state that is disproportionate. For instance, a loved one asks “why are you letting that drive you crazy?” and the other person instantly becomes enraged. They scream out “How can you say that? I’m not crazy!” The triggered person had what I call a “hardwired response” like a Pavlovian one, the body quickly responds by releasing the associated chemicals to get the body ready for a fight. The person can be so mad that they are actually shaking. My technique to break triggers can quickly break these patterns by firing new neural connections in response to a stimulus.
One of the first times I did this myself, the other person had to point out that I was being triggered and they said, “do your thing.” I thought, “I hate when people know my stuff.” But, I closed my eyes, did the technique. Ten to fifteen seconds later, I went from being enraged to laughing about the whole situation.
I had a couple end up using this technique because they would trigger each other all the time and end up screaming at one other. They were close to getting divorced. After they both started breaking triggers in the moment then they could actually discuss their concerns more rationally. It worked for them because they were both committed to making a change.
BE: “Misery loves company.” There are millions of people that waste an enormous amount of their lives because enduring unhappiness. They’ll spend hours of every day denigrating people that are happy or successful. Some of these people know it’s wrong and hate their behavior. They want to change. What advice would you give them?
KB: There is a chapter dedicated to happiness, which looks at the patterns we fall into that create unhappiness. Happiness requires that you are present in the moment. The pursuit of material goods only bring fleeting moments of happiness. For example, you get that new car you always wanted, you’re so excited about it, it’s so great; you’re happy in that moment, but then along come subsequent experiences. You may be afraid of parking it in the street as it may get damaged. You may worry about making the car payments, the insurance and so on.
The best practice is to remember how to have and experience happiness without needing material goods. Watch a little kid pick a dandelion and show it to you with a big bright smile. This shows us how joy comes from inside. Unfortunately many of us have been trained to squash down that joy. It’s time to let it out.